My wife and I celebrated our 48th wedding anniversary two weeks ago. Above is a split-photo of us, top portion, we’re leaving Hedges Nine Mile Point Restaurant where we had our wedding reception on August 24, 1974, and below, we’re leaving our celebratory anniversary dinner at Hedges on August 24, 2022 (almost the same camera angle, several alterations to the building).
My wife and I married when we were both…gulp…eighteen years old. Over the following 48 years we’ve had much joy together, including the arrivals of our two sons and three grandchildren. We also both accepted Jesus Christ as our Savior in 1983. Praise God! We’ve shared nine different homes together, each earned college degrees, and had both rewards and disappointments with our jobs.
There’s also been many trials and challenges in our marriage, including divorcing in 2001, but reuniting the following year. Praise God again!
The saying goes that opposites attract and that’s the case with my wife and I. She’s emotional/effusive/enthusiastic and I’m stoic. She’s impulsive while I’m cautious. She’s a spender and I’m a saver. She’s a talker while I’m much more introspective. My wife tends towards excess, while I lean towards (sometimes rigid) restraint. Etc., etc., etc. At times we’re a great team, complementing one another and covering all of the bases with our disparate personalities. However, at other times the differences have led to frustration and friction. But after 48 years, I still love my wife.
Marriage is not always easy. Marriage takes regular…er…make that ongoing work and sacrifice. Many Christian couples present a rosy posy facade at church and in the company of other believers, but don’t get along behind closed doors. Some sources report that 30% of Christian married couples divorce. Surely a sizable percentage of those 70% who remain married aren’t happily married.
My regular prayer is that I will be a better husband to my wife. Married person, I encourage you to strive, with God’s great grace, to be a better spouse to your partner, also. Encourage. Respect. Forgive. Repeat.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. – Ephesians 5:22-33