Throwback Thursday: Would somebody PLEASE excommunicate me?!?!

Welcome to this week’s “Throwback Thursday” installment. Today, we’re going to revisit a post that was originally published back on August 18, 2016 and has been revised.


In the past, I’ve written about some of the circumstances surrounding my “departure” from the Roman Catholic church, but today I’d like to go into a little more detail.

I was baptized into the church as an infant and our family attended mass every Sunday and holy day of obligation. My five older sisters and I were all sent to Catholic grammar school and high school. I received the sacraments of first penance and first communion when I was seven years old and was confirmed at the age of ten. I served as an altar boy from fifth through eighth grade and even desired to eventually enter the priesthood. But along with adolescence came the usual distractions and I lost interest in the church and religion.

After my wife and I married, had our two sons, and moved into our first house, the responsibility of fatherhood weighed upon me and I set about to raise our two boys in the Catholic “faith” (actually, non-faith since Catholicism is works-based). I began attending mass on Sunday at the local church and even arranged for the parish co-pastor priest, Roy Kiggins, to come over and bless our new house. As part of my return to “the faith,” I also went out and bought a Catholic Bible and began reading the New Testament voraciously. In twelve years of Catholic education, we had never read the Bible. I was amazed and dismayed that the Bible contradicted many of the teachings of the Catholic church. I was so distraught that I finally stopped attending mass.

Through God’s Word and the witness of some Christians and Christian materials, I was convicted of my sinfulness by the Holy Spirit and I accepted Jesus Christ as my Savior by faith alone in 1983. Hallelujah! What joy! What peace! In all those years of religious indoctrination, I had never known Jesus as my Savior. My Catholic family, friends, and classmates didn’t know Christ, either. Catholicism is all about obeying the Ten Commandments (impossible!) and church rules and trying to merit Heaven. There were lots of ritual and formality, but no personal, saving relationship with Jesus Christ.

Roman Catholicism is a religion of ritual and ceremonial legalism, which includes extensive record keeping. In parish archives there’s records of baptisms, confirmations, weddings, funerals, etc. As someone who was genuinely born-again in Christ and had come out of Catholicism, I wasn’t sure what to do next. Does one who leaves the church request an excommunication? My mother-in-law, who had divorced and remarried in the 1950s, had been formally excommunicated from the church (she had received a letter from the diocese) and I desired the same. I wrote a letter to the parish, explaining my new status in Christ and asked to be excommunicated. Co-pastor priest, Ed Palumbos, wrote back saying the Holy Spirit blows where He will and wished me well. Hmph! No excommunication? No anathemas condemning me to the depths of Hell? My, things had certainly changed!

In centuries past, people such as myself who left the RC church and aligned with evangelical Protestantism were condemned as apostates and heretics. What about today? Does the Roman church teach I can still “merit” Heaven since I left the “one, true church” of my own accord? It depends on who you ask, but according to the conservative Catholic source below, if a person abandons the faith “through their own fault” as I did, they will “bear the eternal consequence of doing so.”

But let’s reason this out. Since the church’s salvation doctrine has “evolved” to the point where the current pope teaches that even “good” atheists are able to merit Heaven, it can’t very well arbitrarily condemn all those who left the ranks as it did in the past. A 2015 Pew Research study found that 52% of all U.S. adults who were raised Catholic have left the church. Excommunication letters for remarried divorcees like my mother-in-law were discontinued at some point in the 1970s. Make no mistake, the Catholic church still has its excommunication canons in its Code of Canon Law, but if it had served excommunication papers on everyone who divorced and remarried or who stopped attending obligatory mass, there wouldn’t have been time or resources for anything else.

Thank you, Lord God, for drawing me out of legalistic religion and opening my eyes to your “Good News” and saving me. Baptism, sacraments, and church membership don’t save. Only accepting Jesus Christ as Savior by faith alone leads to salvation.

12 thoughts on “Throwback Thursday: Would somebody PLEASE excommunicate me?!?!

  1. Thank you for sharing this, Tom. It was good hearing more of your background, plus you did your usual excellent job of revealing the hypocrisy of the Catholic church. Two birds with one stone. Nice job!

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    1. Thanks, David! I eagerly sought excommunication from the RCC, but they wouldn’t give me the satisfaction. Well, I’ve survived OK the last 40 years without the excommunication form letter like my mother-in-law received.

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  2. Answering your questin: came back from driving to get my tax turned in to a nonprofit that does for pastors; got home and ready to teach kids a Bible lesson but before that I”m sharing my blog post on social media! going to read this soon!

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  3. Reading this one can see how Romanism changed so much from your mom’s era, your time, and now with my generation. Crazy how it become more libertine; I suspect strict legalism would be the pendulum swing in the future; but then again it might become more lawless. One thing is clear, it ain’t seem to go back to the BIble and recover the Biblical Gospel

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    1. Thanks! Yup, the RCC changed its excommunication policy quite a bit. I didn’t go into it in this 2016 post, bur pope Francis further liberalized the excommunication policy that year by declaring in a footnote in his Amore Laetitia encyclical that remarried divorcees were able to receive the sacraments according to the discretion of the local parish priest, sparking a conservative outrage.

      That’s right, Rome will never deny its sacramentalism and sacerdotal priesthood.

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      1. Thanks. Yeah, I should be getting to those throwbacks pretty soon when conservative RCs went after Francis BIG TIME after his early-2016 encyclical footnotes lifting the ban on sacraments to remarried divorcees. Several blustered that Francis was an outright heretic. He’s worn them done over the last 6 years. I don’t hear a peep out of them.

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  4. Praise God we have been taken out of this demonic religion masquerading as Christianity.
    ( I didn’t receive ex communication papers when I left but I did receive a phone call from a superior nun to say I was on my way to hell for leaving the only true church established by Christ)

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    1. RE: Praise God we have been taken out of this demonic religion masquerading as Christianity.

      Amen, Crissy!

      The current pope would have rebuked that nun for scolding you since he teaches even “good” atheists will merit Heaven.

      I was really looking forward to my official excommunication letter and I felt cheated that I didn’t get one.

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